Finding Peace Beyond Addiction

Discover How Fear and Worry May Lead You to Peace and Love!

As a mom of an adult child struggling with substance use, fear may be part of the journey, but it's not the whole walk!  The path to loving a child through addiction is through peace, love, and the steps it takes to feel it and be it with skills, in word and action! 

 You need it, your child needs it, it changes families and communities.  Take the struggle and fulfill a purpose!  It only needs one to start.  You're it! 

Love Wins Here!

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I wish I could tell you I responded peacefully all the time, especially when it was needed.  But I didn't.  This is hard!  Loving a child through an addiction is hard, and I don't have to tell you that, you know.  I know too.  

And fear is going to block us at every turn because we actually believe all the wild thoughts and wild images we have, and it takes us on a wild ride.  You must know how to care for your fear or it will block you from learning, doing differently, and inspiring change.  

What fear takes from you:

Your peace.

Your hope.

Your health.

Your sleep.

Your ability to show up clear, calm, and confident.

Your ability to learn new tools and skills and use them well when you need them most.

Your connection with your dear child!

It makes sense now that you are overwhelmed in pain, worry, guilt, anger, fear.  Because your brain can't think through the fear .... until it is explored, questioned, and deeper understanding is found. 

You are needed to inspire change and let your love heal you and your relationship with your child!  You are needed!  There is nothing like mother love.  Fear disempowers you, that's not ok!  So be more than ok!  Your love is so much more than ok!  It is on the other side of fear and it's time to let your love shine in you and through you!  

Does this sound familiar?

I can't stop worrying.
He/She is lost.

Nothing is working.

I can't do this anymore.

Then you are exactly in the right place at the right time to shine a light onto these fears and light up your love instead! 

Love Wins Here! 

Love is the path

Fear!  Worry!  Guilt!  Anger!  Grief!  

It may be part of the journey when loving a child struggling with substance use, and there's a path of peace that becomes necessary to walk in way to share your love, deepen your healing, to nurture peace, hope, and possibilities so that you can get your own life back and save the connection with your struggling child.


They struggle?  You too!  I've been there many, many times, I just don't want to stay there.  I bet you don't either! AND WE DO NOT HAVE TO!  I daresay we better not if we're going to be better able to help our children and show up with the energy and skills to love them through the struggles. It is way too painful to believe there's nothing you can do; that you've lost the connection with your child; that all is lost.  It is way too painful to be stuck in fear and believing all the thoughts and stories that go along with that fear.  Get unstuck, please!

You need it.  Your child needs it.  Your family needs it.  Your community.  The nation.  The world.

If we remain overwhelmed by and stuck in fear, we lose hope, sleep, can not see what can work better, can't experience happiness that can be cultivated, can't have the energy to exercise our power to influence change and create conditions where change is possible.  It really starts with you, and there are so many doable steps to continue a more peaceful path that empowers your love.  It is this love we want the most to feel and share with our child.  Fear blocks it.  That's not necessary. 

Because I totally understand the circumstances that will most definitely activate your fear (and my own), I also know the way through that fear and worry so that it brings you to deeper understanding, peace, and the fast track to love, to loving your child as is and where they're at - we call that true unconditional love.  

If you're waiting for "the call", let this be your call!  If you're waiting for the next shoe to drop, let your fears drop!  Let me walk with you through the fear and show you the way to brighten your own inner light so you can shine it into the darkness of addiction, shine it so brightly that your fear, your worry, your guilt, your anger is relieved.  This is where love lives.  

Love wins here! 

I can't stand it!

I can't do it anymore!

This is killing me!

They're lost.

This fear is overwhelming.  Fear will disconnect you from the better ability to love, to learn, to have clarity on your choices, and to make choices based on what is helpful and best in your circumstances.  

I teach skills, but they're hard to learn and apply when fear is ruling the moment, keeping you stuck.

You must know how to get unstuck! 

I can't stop worrying! Your letters are a huge "sigh of relief" for me.  Please keep me on your mailing list. The last ones have truly helped me through and are still doing the same.  ~  Lucille

How does one find peace within the real struggles and pain when your child experiences the complications of substance use, when your life is so impacted by that too?  The worry, overwhelming fear, guilt, anger, grief ... peace is very elusive!  And we need it! We need peace to get your life back, to get back to love, to get some skills, to get your resilience and strength to help in ways that can be helpful.  The exhaustion of fear is not where power is found.  Your power is found in the peaceful moments that inspire your wisdom, energy, insights, and choices. 

aIt's a hard road trying to love and help a child through the struggles with substance use, a road no one would choose. There's relentless worry, grief, resentments, exhaustion, and fear. These are the very things that can become so overwhelming that it blocks you from being able to learn and do the things that can be the most helpful.  And to be the most helpful, it's essential to find your own peace.

I'm not saying peace is a constant state of being, but you must know how to restore your calm and clarity so that you can live your life and create possibilities and opportunities for your child to get their life back too.

And you can! 

The most painful part of this journey for me has been believing I've lost connection with my child.  And then I lose connection with my heart, with hope, with life ...  No wonder it's painful for us! 

I've been on this journey over fifteen years.  There have been times I'm brought to the floor feeling like I can't get up, that my son will never get better. These thoughts and fears are normal, can you relate?  Though there is struggle, this path is also full of inspiration and guidance through coping methods, learning, developing new skills, with compassion, and finding what is true for you so you can do the hard stuff easier.  We know it's not easy, and we sure need to know what works and know how to choose it.

These are the ways to empower your love so that you can save the relationship with yourself and your child.

You are invited on this Pathway to Peace, a way that works, the way of Love.

Love wins here!